The fallacy of greener bananas

row of bananas mostly yellow with one green
Photo by Lotte Löhr on Unsplash

For the first time yesterday, my long time friend Kegan joined my wife and I on a quick grocery run. Since we’ve been married, Charlane and I have been buying groceries once every 2-3 weeks, so this trip to Fairprice felt familiar, almost habitual. That’s why when Kegan remarked at something I said to Charlane about the bananas she chose off the rack, it was a moment of revelation.

“Those look too yellow,” I said. “You should grab a greener bunch. They’ll last longer.”

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My New Year’s resolution for 2018

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The Moleskine notebook I used every step of the way in 2017

I’m not doing this for the sake of tradition or anything like that. Instead, I’d just like to make use of the pensiveness that comes for free at the end of the year to do some visualisation of what the new year is going to be like for me, my wife, and my dog.

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Success needs health

Singapore laksa from a nearby makeshift food court near work

All the success in the world means nothing if you don’t have good health to enjoy it.

Charlane (my wife) seems to be down with food poisoning tonight. It’s one of those unpredictable, common-ish illnesses that can swoop down on you without warning and render your body totally useless.

One moment we were going to enjoy a simple dinner together in between her makeup gigs, and the next moment she’s puking in the toilet 3 times in 20 minutes. Ugh. We’re biology after all.

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Why online advice is dangerous

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Medium is becoming a major source of online advice for me and I’m getting worried

It’s 8:00am in the morning on a weekday and I’m sitting in my living room mindlessly having breakfast. My attention is being given to the Medium posts appearing on my feed this morning. In this particular week, I’m occupied by thoughts about careers, so I tap into posts that discuss the topic.

As far as I can tell, this has happened for many weeks or months, even. Since a lot of them sound flat-out like advice, I’ve basically become habituated to fishing for online advice every morning regarding important areas of life like career, relationships, personal growth, and more.

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Adapt and forget

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Photo by Francesco Gallarotti on Unsplash

The air conditioner in my office is really loud but I just realised this: I hadn’t noticed it at all!

Today when the air conditioner stopped suddenly, the office felt almost pin-drop silent, except I could still hear the ringing in my ears. The machine had been bellowing like a Ferrari – unnecessarily loud, but without the sexy to make it at least slightly palatable.

While my damaged ears were still ringing, I scribbled this in my notebook: we adapt and forget that we adapted.

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Getting good and getting a dream job

dream job depicted by a laptop with a code editor open
Photo by Christopher Gower on Unsplash

Now that we’re coming close to the end of 2017, I’ve been thinking about my career and careers in general. Having begun my career as a software engineer about a year ago, I thought it’d be timely and useful to do some reflection.

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Irritability overseas versus at home

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At Beach Road in Singapore

We recently went to Bali again. It was our 6th trip there this time. I guess you could say we’re a little obsessed with the place.

We really like the affordable and good food, cheap motorbike rental, friendly locals, long beach with people from all over the world vacationing in their own, differentiated ways…

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